July 11, 2023

The Fomo Effect: How to sacrifice oneself for something outside work?


Embrace the freedom to enjoy life without falling behind

Although the term FOMO (fear of missing out) was coined in 2004 by venture capitalist Patrick McGinnis and in this area it seems quite logical and reasonable, its influence has extended beyond its original context. 

In IT, for many people it is perceived as a fear of lagging behind some modern technology.  We often see individuals who are cool and full of achievements - they tell us how they worked, spoke at a conference, went for a run, and we start to think there's something wrong with us.

And at this stage we feel like we're falling behind.

However, none of them will disclose the days when they worked late, full of exhaustion, came home and jumped into bed.

At the same time, the FOMO effect has been significantly affected by working remotely - the boundary between work and personal time has become noticeably blurred, making work-life balance even more elusive.

When you work remotely, you always have your laptop with you wherever you go, your computer awaits you at home, and your work email is constantly accessible on your phone. The concept of switching becomes lost in such an environment.

So, how can you conquer FOMO?

  1. Identify your priorities
    Create a list of priorities, including all the aspects of life you want to pay more attention to. This can include time with family, hobbies, travel, personal development, etc. Be honest with yourself. Focus on things which fill you with positive energy. 

    This list will be your reference point and help you remember that there are dozens of  meaningful aspects of life that deserve your attention.

  2. Plan your time
    Develop a planning system that will help you use your time at full capacity. Prioritize and allocate time to different aspects of your life. Be flexible, but stick to your schedule to balance work with other interests.

  3. Limit your use of social media
    Social media is often a source of FOMO. Limit the time you spend on social media so you don't compare yourself to others and feel left out. Focus on your accomplishments and enjoy the moment itself rather than constantly following others.

  4. Experiment!
    To find a new benchmark, step out of your comfort zone. Try new things, explore new hobbies, develop yourself in different areas of life.

  5. Learn to disconnect
    Take a break from work by closing your work chats, setting aside your laptop and immersing yourself in the present moment. By disconnecting regularly, you can reduce anxiety and unwind. Take time to recharge, and do simple activities that make you feel good. 

  6. Don't be afraid to say no
    Sometimes you just need to say "no" to free up time for yourself. Remember that your time and life are valuable, so it’s important to set boundaries. Don't feel guilty about declining certain responsibilities or offers. Keep in mind that your well-being and health should always be a priority.


Remember that your happiness lies in the ability to take only what you need. Don't forget to rest deeply, start living your life to the fullest, and enjoy every precious moment :)